boss power vs authority

part 3: relationships

A mistake that many managers make is that they think they need to be friends with their employees to have a good relationship with them. But relationship power doesn’t mean being friends. In fact in the boss-employee relationship has a conflict of interest with the friend relationship. Thankfully there are proven, formulaic ways to build better relationships with your employees.

 

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  • How to motivate employees
  • What are bad employee motivators
  • What you must do as a manager but isn't on your job description
  • How leaders get power
  • Management techniques that don't take time

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Relationship power

The second form of personal power is relationship power. I define this as having a good connection with someone. In traditional leadership you could call this having charisma and the most famous example is Bill Clinton. But true charisma is rare and it’s hard to learn. Luckily for managers like you and me we don’t have to be as charismatic as Bill Clinton if you follow a few simple steps to build functioning relationships with your employees. You don’t even have to have role power over people if you have a good relationship with them. Just think about people you do have a good relationship with - these are the people that would be prepared to go the extra mile for you.

What you need for good relationships

A mistake that many managers make is that they think they need to be friends with their employees to have a good relationship with them. But relationship power doesn’t mean being friends. In fact in the boss-employee relationship has a conflict of interest with the friend relationship. A good relationship with people is built on familiarity. This includes:

  • Communicating well with them

  • Building trust and

  • Understanding them - knowing what they like, what they dislike, what motivates them, what demotivates them, what they are best at, their negative tendencies to look out for etc.

But most people don’t have good relationships with everyone

The problem with relationships is that it takes a long time to build good relationships because it takes time to build trust and familiarity.

And while you can choose your friends, work forces you into close proximity with people that aren’t compatible with you. There are so many different types of personality styles that it’s almost certain that your employees will have an incompatible personality to you. Workplace dynamics put relationships under pressure.

The benefits of relationship power

On the plus side relationship power is virtually unlimited. When you use authority and money for influence then you have a limited, transactional relationship. But with relationships you get commitment, loyalty and people willing to go the extra mile. If you feel your staff don’t take ownership or are uncreative or don’t seem to listen to you these are signs that your relationship power is weak. Thankfully there are proven, formulaic ways to develop better relationships. Functional relationships are a cornerstone of successful management and this is covered in the relationship building through one on ones part of www.Boss.Camp.